MiLF: Mothers Into Living Freely


The Story:

MiLF, another term created to identify women, more so a mother, held to the standards of the eye of the beholder. Derogatory, or complimentary, I presume it is up to the woman to at least decide that part, right? How honorary can it feel to be the "Mother I'd Like to Fuck" in the eye of someone who, by lack there of, holds no moral connection to your being. The term gives rise to the idea that once a woman enters motherhood, she looses her essence. The dynamic that she is no longer sexually attractive, or need to be overtly attractive to be considered MiLF often puzzled me. Here is why:

1. M in M.I.L.F. means Mother. 

Whether you like it or not a Mother by nature is already a woman who someone has chosen to lay with, considering her attractive enough to be what I'd call a WILF, or "Woman I'd Like to Fuck." That alone took out the idea that a "hot" mom even existed for all the matter. 

Take a look around. Identify the women that you know as a Mother. What do they look like? What does your mother look like? What do you look like. Before you became a mother you looked like a woman. And that is who you are. 

What does happen when we enter motherhood is that we forget that we are women first. A lot of us become entangled in the battle of self and mother. Trying desperately to balance the two, and often once you become a mother of multiple children the task becomes even harder. Single mothers become engulfed in a life of providing, in todays society alone. The burden of mental welfare, stability, and self awareness are brutal at times. Lets not forget the stay at home mothers (SAHM), who spend hours at home providing for their children as the world never notices. Often glamorized in pop culture the SAHM is often riddled with depression, anxiety, and face rejection from other mothers who can not relate to their position.  Believing these woman are at home living the life, when they are many times left alone to care for their children with no help around them. They lack friendships and become overwhelmed by the identity of housewife. They wear mask of happiness because of course, how can a woman not be happy when she is at home with no "job". The Foster/Adoptive Mother, who by all means enters motherhood with such a unique dynamic we mothers often forget that they too are walking the path of mental and emotional insecurities, in a way we often can not relate. These women need guidance and a place to feel they are free as mothers. And that they are just that, mothers. Being a woman is trying as our history alone shows a lifestyle of mental suppression and submission. Now, some how in 2020, after being the birth source of human life itself since the beginning, we still seem to not understand that magnitude of not only womanhood but Motherhood.

As a Mother of 5 at the age of 32, I realized how important it is to have a structure of woman around who are familiarized with the challenges and pressures of motherhood. Before becoming a mother, I was a young woman. A woman like many who wondered what my place in life would be. I often wondered if I'd even become a mother. Something that frightened my mind since I was a teenage girl. For myself I gathered my ideas of what motherhood was by collectively memorizing all that I could from every mother around me. My friend mothers were, in the sense, my mothers as well. Every grandmother I met, I took a part of them with me. Not realizing how much that would have an impact on my, for lack of better words, lonely trail through motherhood (despite being married). For me it was embodying first hand what I saw, and adapting to the things I knew that I wanted to experience for my journey through Motherhood. I can tell you first hand that I often relied on the freedom that I saw inside of each and every one of these women. There was no room for me to judge what a Mother was because I realized that they were/we are, all women who were and are trying to learn as we go through this journey of life. Through their experience I was able to make it this far in my journey as a Mother. 

MiLF&Cookies was originally created April 7 1015, 4 days after my 28th birthday and at that time was only a Mother of 3.  I had found myself trying to spring back into life after having 3 children in the span of 5 years. I was married and had been homeschooling my children since birth. Before the change I'll call it, I identified myself as an outgoing, spontaneous, ambitious fireball of energy. I wanted to be a scientist, study cytogenetics, then I wanted to be an attorney, fighting for the civil rights of our fellows  human beings, And lets not forget that I totally was going to be the next Rhianna. Yup not Beyonce but Rhianna. If all that failed I would be running my own company because I was going to be a boss either way. This was just my though process, Maybe that Aries spirit. However I quickly found myself lost alone and on the mystical journey of motherhood. I never realized just how much it takes mentally to be a mother. The identity crisis that comes with motherhood is silent, but deadly. Recovering from it may be something most women never get to experience. But I created MiLF&Cookies to remind Mothers that you are free to be exactly who you want to be. 

A MiLF isn't categorized by her looks, she is categorized by her willfulness to take upon such a noble role that would in an instant tarnish the taboo of youth itself. To become an old maid, or used goods, rather minimized by society, we are the binding structure of this universe. We are the vessel of life and embody the grounding for what this world holds. And we have the freedom to be individually that. We are all MiLFs, Mothers into Living Freely. Created with the idea that we are Freeing ourselves from the stigma of "mom culture" MiLF culture has no rules. Its obvious that we Mothers vary so much that placing an identity on what a mom is, is ridiculous. Forget what a mom has to be your a MOTHER! A woman, a mom, a life, a MiLF. IF anything we need a structure to network with fellow Mothers who may be able to help us on our journey. I can guarantee that there is another mother who can identify with your issue and that you are in fact not alone. You may be under the illusion that no-one else can relate but as a Mother Into Living Freely I am hoping to create a foundation that houses the community of eternal motherhood. A place for freedom of expression a true connection for what can be the scariest part of life. Motherhood.

Welcome to the Club: MiLF&Cookies 

Mothers into Living Freely. 

 

 

 

This Blog was written by Luna Supreme, Founder Creator and Concept Designer behind MiLF&Cookies. She is a Mother of 5 children and the Original Mother Into Living Freely. She hopes to create a positive space for Woman entering and seasoned in Motherhood, with hopes that in the future every Mother has a shoulder to lean on within this community. No mother is alone, and you are free to be who you are, not stigma identifies attached.